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hmm... After readin jas's blog arh.
Gave me smth to write. Another compo i guess. but wadeva. You came here to read right? then READ.

Family probs. yeps. They weigh u down alot. But hmm. You know zero? Yea, it has some uses here. Well, mum nagging, some family disagreements, some restrictions, some stupid rule they expect u to follow.

Frustrating ain't them? But well. It's not lyk you're the only one who's experiencing it. It's lyk... The value, how much importance you should put on that problem. It's a problem everyone's facing isn't it? If you really can't accept it, den well. I guess the nxt best way is to ask for advice? If everyone goes through the same thing, there would SURELY at least be SOMEONE who can give u some useful advice isn't it?

Well, jas said that no matter wad, it's still a fact that they are troubles just that everyone's facing too right? Okay, yah. So? What's the point of asking advices then? Lyk i've said, this is a game of psychology. You only get affected mentally, not physically right? so fight it back mentally, not physically. Give urself psychological relaxation rather den physical relaxation, for eg, shouting, slping, crying.

Change ur mentality. Always remember this. Take note of ur 1st reaction aka thinkings / feelings towards it. When the situation is not to your advantage, try a different one which u think can help the nxt time. The more it comes naturally to u, the more it'll become ur instinct to feel that way. For eg, when u're mum juz shout at u to stop using the computer, the 1st instinctive feeling is to shout back saying "WAIT AWHILE LARH!"

yea. Try to pause and think of what u're actually doing. Do things which are meaningful. It's very very boring doing some meaningless things which would worsen the situation.

There's another thing u can do. But not many ppl is able to do this. It isn't as easy as saying it out. Even i can only do it occasionally. So well. just try eh? The golden rule for this solution is, put urself in their shoes. Sounds easy. yet difficult right?

Nvm lah, i help guide u lol. Well, it's faster getting to the root yea? 1st, think of WHY they want to do this, instead of why you're supposed to do it. After getting that down, think of how would they be feeling by doing that, and 3rd how would they feel if u've said what u've had in mind.

Those are the 3 things to do in order to make that work. But trust me, doing all that 3 things within 2 or 3 secs... requires alot alot of practice. I'm a practical person, so i'll give u a scenario. When u're mum just started shouting at u, do wad i've said. Cuz u only have around 2 to 3secs to reply yea? So if u do that correctly, it shout work out.

Trust me larh. That one sure work derh. Only whether u can pull it off anot.

And anyways, we're always thinking, why are my parents treating me like this? umm, i translate tis to english. "take a step back, and the sky would be clear" Well, don't always think of what our parents do us... SOMETIMES, think of what we've done to our parents. And sometimes, think of what we've done FOR our parents, and what they've done FOR us.

You'll realise that there actually isn't much that u can grumble about. Eh jas. Your aunt restricting u to do alot of things right? Ask her why don't allow u to do so. Once she's said that, if there's anything u don't agree with. Explain to her why. Dun care take how long. Explain until she understands what u're trying to sae.

zzz, i don't know what kind of impression i'm giving by keep typing such posts.

oh. and 1 more thing. trust me. This is part of growing up. yea yea, sounds dumb yea? but u'll understand one day. Hmm. so many thinkings... What i've said is the elementary ones. The basic thing that applies to almost everyone. There's still specific troubles which branches out from the word family. If you have any troubles tell me larh. I think i SHOULD have a solution for it...

But u noe what? I'm scared. I'm really afraid that what i'm telling other people, smth that people will believe. I'm afraid that it's wrong. I'm afraid that wad i've said is fake, smth that people shoudn't believe yet got tricked into believing. Sigh, i think i'll be able to understand that when i grow more... =D time is the esscence to knowledge =D